Sunday, December 5, 2010
Random Thoughts About Commitment
On one instance, in which the person, the venue and the date will not be disclosed, I was approached by someone and was asked...
"Hey! What will it take for you to leave you partner?".
Okay, let us not discuss the intention of the question, or the relevance of who asked the question. I want to talk about the question, and the answer I have for it. Mahirap na, baka ma-imbestigador ako. Hehe.
Keeping a relationship is never easy. Same as finding someone whom you can have one with. And staying committed to that relationship is always tough. Most especially in our society where people are cruel. There are people who enjoys destroying good relationship out of lust.
Who has been a victim in the past? Raise your hand!
Everyday, I give thanks because of many reasons. One of them is having a partner who has been with me for 14 months already. Thankful for allowing me to find someone whom I can share my life with. Thankful for the strong 14 months of being together and staying committed to what we have formed as a couple. Thankful that despite the challenges in life, we have remained intact and kept the bond strong.
Ano nga ba ang sagot ko sa tanong, ang haba nang introduction ko!!!
Hehe. I have to say it. Walang pakialaman!
Ramdam niyo ba ang discussion ko with myself? Haha!
Anyways, ang sagot eh kapag nagloko siya. Hubbee knows it. When I start a relationship with someone, parang sa work, may setting of expectation agad. In which I think is vital lalo na sa start nang relationship. Each of you should know the expectations of each other so not only you can live up to it, but to also avoid disappointments.
Hindi biro sa akin ang relasyon. I'm always serious about it and I give everything, as in everything. My time, my heart, my soul, pati balun-balunan, atay, kidney, ugat, pati na rin mga kuko at lahat nang buhok ko sa katawan. Isama na rin nating ang mga fats kong patuloy ang pag-evolve sa buhay ko. Ganyan ako magmahal. Hehe.
Pag nagloko, goodbye na. Kahit ilang buwan pa ang pinagsamahan, no room for cheating talaga sa akin. Goodbye to the capital G agad. No seccond chances. Ewan ko ba. Hindi ko alam pero di ako takot maging single. Di bale nang maging single ako basta wala na ako sa relasyong gaguhan. Ayoko kasi nang nanloloko kaya I stay committed. As in super serious. Kaya pag jinoke na ako, eh paliligayahin ko rin siya nang sobra. Pakakawalan ko na agad. Hehe.
Hindi ako magtatali nang asong ulol sa bakuran ko. Gusto ko, poodle. Hehe.
Hindi ako gwapo, pero hindi ko naman pinroblema ang magkaroon nang taong mamahalin. Yun nga lang at mapili ang puso ko kaya I take time in finding the right person to share my love with. At pag nahanap ko na, I embrace it with my life. It's a promised commitment. Na hindi basta basta binibitawan, even if at times eh rough days siya. Dapat hold on to it pa din.
Sa panahon ngayon, it is true that it is hard to find someone na magiging match nang buhay mo. Lust, madali. Super dali. Pero love? Mahirap! Di lahat nang taong nagugustuhan mo eh swak for a relationship. Yung iba, masaya lang kasama, pero di match sa bed. Yung iba, match sa bed, di naman masaya kasama after. Yung iba, better off as friends, nawawala yung fun part pag lumalagpas na sa line nang friendship. Yung iba, pang bandera lang. Yung iba, sa simula lang. Hindi nakakatagal.
That's why pag nakahanap ka na, panghawakan mo na. Madami talagang temptation sa paligid but resist it. Wag kang padadala. Ang puso, iniingatan, hindi sinasaktan o pinaglalaruan. Dahil pag nagkamali ka lang, andaming mawawasak. Andaming masasayang. At may mga maaapektuhan sa paligid niyo. Imbes na masaya na lang kayo palagi, magiging magulo pa ang lahat. Kaya pag-ingatan. Tama na ang laro. Hindi ka na bata!
So, ang sagot ko sa tanong na "What will it take for you to leave you partner?", ay kapag nagloko siya. Yun lang ang sagot ko. Pinahaba ko lang. Hehe.
Nang kunwari eh may sense naman daw ako. Haha.
Kidding aside, these are the rings that symbolizes our commitment to each other. We had these rings from Baguio during our anniversary celebration 3 months ago. This ring reminds us everyday of our commitment with each other. That no matter what, we'll stick with each other. Sometimes, in a relationship, you have to be reminded at times so you will not forget.
To those who are in love, stay in love with that only one person in your life. Let go of the desires in your heart with other people. Enjoy the love and be happy. To those who are still searching for the one to love, stay committed first to yourself. It is from learning to love yourself will teach your heart on how to love someone else in your life. Have a pleasant good morning readers!!!